Thursday, April 14, 2016

Update

A lot has happened since the last time I posted (which was in the end of January), however, I haven't posted anything in a really long time. This has been due to the fact that this blog was also my personal project for school which was due in January (the product, don't even get me started on the report). After it was due I decided to take a break from blogging due to personal reasons as well as simply not having the time or motivation for it (like I said a lot has happened and I've been really busy with school).

I do plan on posting during the last two months of my exchange but it will be difficult for me due to the fact my computer has died and that's easiest for me to write on. I will probably be blogging from my phone from now on or possibly from a computer at school if I have the time. There will most likely no longer be pictures in my posts because it is very difficult to due on the phone and I don't really like adding that many pictures to my posts like I have been in the past due to privacy reasons (mine and others).

I'm sorry to those especially from home and or personally know me and or I have given my blog to to follow for not posting, I have been nagged by my mother with the fact that people have been asking about my blog and yes I will be posting! Just possibly not as much as before, maybe not in the same style, and probably not with pictures.

P.S.: My next post will most likely be about my trip to Milan with my Model United Nations club so be looking for that in the next week or two. :)

Sunday, January 24, 2016

Halfway Through Reflection

I was looking on my count down app that I used to count down to the days I had left on coming to Lithuania (it turned into a count up after the 'deadline' passed) and the number of days until my friends in the US graduate which also happens to be the last day of school for my school here. While looking at this realized that I have officially been here more days than the days I have left of school (I'm not going to say overall yet due to the fact that I have no idea what date I am going home but I have a feeling that I have less days left than I've been here as well). This is absolutely terrifying to me because my exchange is halfway completed and I really don't want to think about going home. It really doesn't feel like I have been here for five months (well almost five months, I still have one more day until I've been here officially for five months) and time has really flown by. Actually, reflecting on what time feels like it feels as though I have lived here all my life, life feels completely normal and I've actually kind of forgotten what was normal for me in the US because it feels so normal here. Anyways, as my exchange is halfway completed I believe it is important for me to reflect over the different lessons and things that I have learned here and to share them with you in order to show what sort of life lessons and things that exchange can teach a person.

Public Transport: I thought I'd start out with public transport because it has taught me a lot and I actually haven't really experienced the joy of riding public transport everyday in the US due to the fact that my town doesn't really have public transport (I think we have one bus that goes to the next town over but other than that, nothing). I could actually probably make a whole post on public transport come to think of it. This may or may not be comical and it id meant to be that way.

-If you're early then your bus is likely going to be late, if you're on time then your bus may also be on time but it may have been early (this is highly unlikely but it still happens) but more likely it will be late, however, if you're late then your bus was early or on time. Why? Because screw you. The lesson that this has taught me is to always plan ahead when you plan to use public transport and be prepared to account for your bus being early, on time, or late. Also, you can apply this to every day life by the fact that it's important to be early or  on time and to plan ahead in order to get opportunities or have people trust you more.

-There is no such thing as personal space so just deal with the fact that you're likely going to be made into a human sandwich sometimes. This has taught me to get over some of my personal space issues that I've had all my life and to deal with grumpy people who start yelling you at for no real reason other than the fact that your backpack is big. That's another thing, if you have a big bag you're going to have more space so carry a big backpack (I'm half kidding about this but it's true, you will have more space, trust me). It has also taught me to plan my day or social life after school on taking later buses in order to avoid going on these very crowed bus times. However, you just have to deal with it sometimes if you need to go home or get somewhere and that's okay. Just take a deep breath and remember that it will only last however long it takes for you to get where you need to go (or to the stop where the majority of the people get off if that's before your stop).

-Always keep your wallet in a pocket that would make it hard for someone to reach. This is especially important when it comes to traveling during the rush hour when the buses are crowded. When you're sandwiched between people it can be hard to feel someone opening your bag that you won't even notice them opening your bag and taking your wallet. Though I have never had this happen to me and I'm doing all I can to avoid it happening to me, I have been told and warned by my family and friends that it happens and to take precaution (just passing on the message).

-People can be intolerable, rude, upset, annoying, and many more but you shouldn't judge or take it personally because you don't know how their day has been and everybody has bad days. On the bright side you will probably never see them again, they will likely forgot about you, and you will probably forget about them also. Just smile, sigh, and try to be understanding.

-Be assertive and get on the bus, don't be polite and let other people go first because then you will never be able to get on. However, try not to push people because that's rude and they may get upset at you. When the bus comes, run to the front of the mob of people, wait for the people to get off the bus, then get on no matter what. It was very hard for me at first to take that initiative and people would basically push me around in order to get on though I was being polite and allowing them to go first. Also, if you're not on the bus first, you are highly unlikely to get a seat, be able to stand in a spot with space, and are more likely to become a human sandwich.  This has also taught me that in everyday life that if I want something I have to take initiative and not wait for other people to something before I do it.

Weather: Though I am from Oregon and the weather in Oregon is also quite bipolar, it seems to be even more so here. Also, I walk around more and use public transport so I'm outside a lot more than in the US. People have told me here that the weather in Lithuania is unpredictable and that it rains a lot. Even the name of the country in Lithuanian, Lietuva has the Lithuanian word for rain in it, lietus.

-The weather report is likely lying, don't trust it and be prepared for anything. There was one time that I checked my weather app to find that there was a 0 percent chance of it raining only to have it start down pouring on my way home from school, Needless to say I didn't have the proper clothing for a down pour and got drenched. Also, it may be warmer or colder than what it says (don't forget about the wind chill like I have multiple times here). It is important to dress for the worst however, I don't always do this because I like to be efficient and not suffer from being too hot (I'm a bad example, sorry). This also teaches that in life not all of the source you have may be correct therefore it is important to be prepared for anything.

People and Communication: Learning how to interact with people who are different from one comes with time and I have definitely learned the importance of communication while I've been here, how hard it can be at times especially with a language barrier, and how to try to make myself better at communicating as well as understanding other people.

-One thing to remember is that you shouldn't judge a person based off of how they act during one event or on just first impressions. Anything could be going on with them and you never know if something is bothering them or them and affecting how they are acting. Therefore, second chances are important and one should try to not judge a person right away. One should get to know that person first and then make their judgement as soon as they have given that person a chance. I learned this from spending time with my class. When I first met everyone I tried to keep an open mind and not judge anyone right away though it was hard. I was frustrated based off the fact that I felt as though they were quite immature and not very considerate to others. However, when I got to know the majority of them, I realized that they are pretty nice and fun to hang out with and or talk to.

-Just because a person can't speak your language, you shouldn't make fun of them or get angry at them, try to understand or find a way to understand. My experience with this is more memorable from my time in Argentina than it is in Lithuania. Getting off the plane and going through customs I was faced with a language barrier. The customs officer was trying to ask me the address that I was staying at but I didn't understand her at all. She then started to get frustrated and yelling at me. News flash, yelling at someone or talking louder doesn't make someone understand you more, it just makes them scared and not understand your intentions even more (as well as make the sleep deprived, slightly already terrified 15 year olds want to cry). Therefore, it is important to not get frustrated at the person and to try to help them to understand.

Cars: This one will be short. Basically I've learned to appreciate the U.S. citizen's ability to drive at the age of 16 as well as my parents being used to (as well as I being used to) driving me to the majority of my events. In Lithuania, one has to be 18 in order to get their licences and I don't believe that many young people around the city drive that much because of public transport. Therefore, I miss being able to drive (though I didn't really), riding with friends, and having access to cars more in general.

Exchange life/last remarks: Overall the exchange life has taught how to live with other people who don't speak my language as their first and who may be different from me, how to handle myself and actions that I take and to be responsible for them, how to deal with people in general that don't speak my language and how to try to communicate better with them without getting upset or frustrated, how to have the confidence to ask for help, favors, or for something in general, to take initiative, and I'm sure many more. These last five months have been both the hardest and most enjoyable/memorable of my life so far. I'm so glad to of had the opportunity to have grown this much through an exchange opportunity in only five months. I'm excited to see what the next five months bring as well as the lessons that I will learn and to be able to reflect again on my exchange year overall!

*If you have any questions about the lessons that I have learned and or want to learn more about how you can grow as a person through an exchange opportunity, feel free to contact me.

Thursday, January 21, 2016

Holiday Break

Over the holidays I had the opportunity to travel a little with my host family. Though some of it seemed a little spontaneous, I'm so happy we were able to go and have fun. To start of four days of straight traveling around we went to Kaunas. Kaunas is the second largest city in Lithuania and was once the (temporary) capital of Lithuania. It is about in the center of Lithuania and only about 103 kilometers or 64 miles and takes about a hour and fifteen minutes to get to from Vilnius. We went because my host sister and father had a jump diving competition and they thought it would be nice to show me around at the same time. So we got up early (well, early for the break), packed up the car, and headed towards Kaunas. First we dropped off my host mother's mother at the bus station for her to go back her home in Klaipėda and then dropped my host father and sister off at the school in which they were competing at. My host mother and I then went  to the Old Town of Kaunas where she showed me some of the main attractions including where her and my host father got married, the town hall square, and the old president's house. Within the square was the Kaunas Christmas tree which changes each year and the next one's planning starts right after the current one is put up. This Christmas tree was interactive meaning that if you did something on an object, an ornament on the tree would move. In order to move the ballerina or to make her turn one had to say a poem or sing into a microphone. If you wanted to move the rocking horse you would have to get on the life one below the tree and rock it. In order to move the train's wheels you had to turn a lever. There was a bicycle in which you had to pedal on in order to move the owl's head. Finally, inside the tree there was a bird that if you put your hands on it and warmed it up some lights would turn on. My host mother and I had a lot of fun trying to figure all of these out and taking pictures.


Kauna's Christmas tree




After that we headed to the competition where my host father and sister were competing. They did quite well and received the second place award for their category. After the competition we met up with some of my host parent's dear friends and went to have food at Piano Piano (a pizzeria that is quite popular in Kaunas, they weren't even sure we'd be able to get sits there). After enjoying some pizza, we all headed back out the square to look at the tree in the dark in which it started snowing! This made me feel so wonderful because I love snow and we haven't really had any until now. We then said our goodbyes and headed home. 

The next day my host family and I went to Druskininkai, which is sort of a resort town, like the one we went to in the Czech Republic (please see that post for reference). My host mother told me that a good way to remember the city is that it has a salt lake and is basically the Salt Lake City of Lithuania (like that of Utah in the U.S.). A lot of people come to this city to relax and be pampered, including a lot of people from Russia. Some people even buy apartments there and rent them out sometimes. However, we didn't stay very long here and we didn't venture the city because that was not the objective of the trip. Our objective was to go to Druskininku Vandens Parkas, a water park. My host family and I had a lot of fun going on the different slides, swimming in the lazy river as well as the wave pool, and swimming in general. After spending a good three hours at the water park we went to get some good food at a nice burger place and then headed home.
The next morning we started our journey to Latvia and Estonia. Neither of these countries are quite far from Vilnius as they are neighboring countries of Lithuania. It only took us about four hours to get to Riga, Latvia which is about in the middle of Latvia, about 294 kilometer or 182 miles, right on the coast of the Baltic sea. Before we arrived in Riga we stopped at Cinemaville which was a movie set that for a basketball movie, a world war two movie, and are currently getting ready to film a movie about the only real 'king' of Lithuania (when Latvia and Lithuania shared the same country). We got to walk around the set and watch a group of people make a pretend movie. We had a lot of fun learning about how different scenes in movies look though it will sort of ruin watching movies for us. For example, some of the actors needed to ride in a trolley bus and in order to move it they had to connect it to a tractor. Our guide told us that it was typically how a lot of scenes like that were made. After spending around an hour there we got back into the car and headed towards Riga.  There we were able to see the Laima clock which is an old meeting place and also a very good brand of chocolates (though I can't judge that because I never tried it), the old town which looked quite similar to the Vilnius old town as well, and got to climb up St. Peter's church's tower. There I got to see the start of the night and the city lit up from the sky. After we finished viewing the city we headed back to the car and started the 4 hour drive up to Tallinn, Estonia. I really enjoyed my time in Riga though it was quite short and very cold (like 0-5 degree Fahrenheit, I learned what real cold was and am now very prepared for more cold to come). Overall I still had fun and would love to visit and spend more time in Riga again. 
Riga' Christmas tree

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   The car ride to Estonia wasn't that long, I actually really enjoyed sitting in the car and seeing the Estonian countryside (even though it was dark and mostly forests). We arrived in Estonia around 11pm and went straight to bed. The morning we started our day a little early (well early for me because I was still on break and was very used to going to bed around 2am and getting up around 10am), around 8 am, had breakfast at the hotel, then headed out to explore the city. In Estonia we mostly walked around the old town. The Tallinn old town is actually quite different from Riga and Vilnius's, it looks quite bit more medieval and older than them. While in Tallinn I got to walk on the city wall which was built in the 13th century and completely surrounded the city. It is actually one of the most still intact old city walls in Europe as well as possibly the world. We also got to visit the oldest, still operating pharmacies which also had an exhibition for us to view about it's history and different old remedies such as dried hedgehogs and different herbs. We then got to try some roasted almonds that were quite typical as well. These almonds were roasted in sugar and a lot of different spice, everyone seemed to enjoy them. We tried to see one of the oldest working water toilets but the place wasn't allowing people to see it due to the cold weather/winter time. After that we walked around the old town a little bit more looking at the different shops, headed back towards the car to have some lunch at not very Estonian restaurant and then went to car to head back home to Vilnius.I really liked Tallinn, you could really feel the history throughout the town and it was super beautiful. Over all I am very grateful for the opportunity to travel with my host family some more and see other parts of Lithuania and the world.


Tallinn


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Sunday, January 3, 2016

Christmas

   Celebrating Christmas in Lithuania was truly something. The traditions were quite different from my own within my family but overall a great experience. To start off, much like the U.S., Christmas decorations at big stores, shopping center, and the like were put up/starting to be hold starting the day after Halloween (Halloween also isn't celebrated here as Halloween more of a U.S. holiday). The city was somewhat decorated in some parts but mostly within the Old Town. There was a Christmas tree in the cathedral square but other than that, compared to the U.S. at least in my town, the city decorated as much. Holiday music was played at the shopping centers but at least from my experience, barely any Christmas music was played on the radio. Holiday movies were also barely played and the main one that was played is the Home Alone series. Overall, the Christmas season didn't seem as forced as it is in U.S. but was still somewhat present and beautiful.

   Christmas is celebrated on the 24th and 25th of December. On the 24th, Christmas Eve, my host family and I weren't allowed by tradition to eat any meat or dairy products (or really anything at all in preparation for the feast to come that night). With that my host mother spent the majority of preparing many of the 12 dishes (we actually had more than 12) that we would have that night, all without meat or dairy. The dishes consisted a lot of different dishes from potato, fish, cabbage, beets, and other vegetable products. Our feast started in the evening when my host father's parents, my host mother's mother, and an aunt (I think she was an aunt of my host father but I'm not sure) came. We all then sat around the table and started the feast. The feast started off with the eating of the holy bread and then everything else. By tradition everyone had to eat at least 12 things as the 12 dishes represent the 12 apostles. I tried around 14-15 of the dishes/items we could eat which included the holy bread, herring with mushrooms, herring with carrots, two different catfish dishes, a beetroot, carrot, and potato salad that I helped make, a thick juice, a poppy seed 'dumpling (they looked like small empanadas), a grain patty, apple with honey, and a few other items that probably involved fish. It was a different taste of food than what I am used to but it was still very good. After we ate we talked for a little while and got notes from Santa. Then we all went to bed late in the evening.

Family photo before dinner

Dessert: Poppy seed milk soaked Christmas cookies

The table

Items that didn't fit on the table

 Christmas morning started later than mine at home (around 7 am) at 9 am when everyone started getting up and ready to open the presents/start the day. We started the day by having my host sister distribute the gifts to everyone and then everyone opening their's at once. We all opened and admired our gift thanking each other and Santa. After that we had a breakfast of the leftover food from the night before (I had yogurt and granola instead) and then decided to go into the city for a walk. It was raining some but we weren't going to let that stop us. We went into the Old Town, saw the Christmas tree, walked near my school, to the Gates of Dawn, and then back up the street to car. It was very nice to get out of the house but still spend time with my host family and their extended family.
The Christmas tree and I

The Christmas tree in the cathedral square

After getting home from our walk my host mother began the preparation for the dinner and everyone else went their separate ways talking with each other, playing with their friends, or watching a series or movie. Around 4 my host mother called us all to dinner where we had a feast of duck, potatoes, the food from the feast the previous night, and chocolate cake. We then sat around and talked some more and then people started leaving and my first Christmas away from home was over. I was very happy to spend it with my host family and to of had the experience. It was different from my own traditions which was a nice change. Now I can combine both traditions for next Christmas!


Thursday, December 31, 2015

ExCEL Abroad

   Today I'm going to take a different route and not talk directly about my experiences but instead talk about my program. Exchanges for Culture, Education, and Leadership or ExCEL started six years ago when the first group of Lithuanians were sent to the United States as youth ambassadors to represent the country of Lithuania and to make lasting connections and friendships. After five years of successfully sending Lithuanians to the U.S., the Kazickas Family Foundation issued a three year grant for the ExCEL Abroad program, to send high school aged students from the U.S. (current 9th, 10th, 11th, and 12th graders) to Lithuania. Like the ExCEL program these students are also to serve as youth ambassadors and to form lasting relationships between their home and host community that will bring a mutual understanding between the two countries. The participants attend a local school, live in a host family, and are strongly encouraged to get involved with activities within their host community  through community service, culturally related classes, and after school activities (all of these help the participants to make those connections in which the program was made for). This program is a fully-funded scholarship therefore the only costs to participants are extra pocket money (whatever the monthly stipend doesn't cover), required medical examinations and immunizations prior to departure, fees associated with obtaining a passport, and any fees associated with obtaining a third visa (for travel outside of Lithuania if needed but this will probably not be likely). Eligible students are current high school students who are U.S. citizens or permanent residents born between January 1st, 1997 through June 30th, 2000. The ExCEL Abroad application is due February 3rd, 2016. For more information I will put the ExCEL Abroad website at the end of the post as well as a link to the application.

  I'm a part of the first group participants of the ExCEL Abroad program and to be honest I'm so glad I chose to come here and am very honored to be part of the this group. There are only two of us here,  a girl named Emma and I (as far as I know for next year there will still be only two scholarships but don't let that stop you from applying). We attend different local schools. I attend Vilnius International school which an IB school running through the 10th grade (though next year 11th grade will be added as well as 12th the following year but they will not be a part of the IB program) and courses are taught in English. Though it is school and is quite similar to my school in the US, I really enjoy going because my classmates are great. Not only do I get to make friendships with Lithuanians but other people of different country origins such as Russia, Ukraine, Portugal, Kazakhstan, and many others as many of my classmates and teachers are from all around the world. Emma goes to Vilniaus Jėzuitų Gimnazija which is a school taught in Lithuanian, one of the top schools in Vilnius, has and currently hosts many exchange students. Overall we both like our schools and enjoy what we are taught everyday even if it's not academic.

  Living in a host family is one of the core parts of the exchange experiencel. I live in a wonderful host family that really has made me feel a part of the family. I enjoy spending time with them and have done a lot with them (please refer to other parts of my blog for examples). As far as I know Emma enjoys her host family as well. We don't live close to each other as I actually don't live in Vilnius like she does but we both enjoy the city life and have friends that we spend time with as well. Many parents (and students for the matter) get nervous when it comes to host family living which is completely normal because you have no idea what kind of family you are going to be placed in. Just to be clear, the program coordinators screen, interview, view the house, and have an orientation of a sort before participants are even assigned their host families. They also go through background checks so there is no need to worry (though it is very natural and hard not to). The key is to communicate with the host family as much as possible and to communicate with your coordinators as well if there are any problems. I can not stress more of how important it is to communicate. Overall, host family living is a very important part of this program as students are completely immersed in the Lithuanian culture and experience everything first hand.

  Participants also have the opportunity to learn the local language, Lithuanian. Emma learns from her school as courses are taught in Lithuanian and I have Lithuanian classes at school. We also have attended a language course at the local university which has helped us become more functional in everyday life. Since we both live in host families we both have the opportunity to practice our Lithuanian with our host families and to learn more from them as well. Learning a language through immersion is, in my opinion, one of the best ways to learn because you are not just repeating words from a teacher, reading from a text, or doing exercises, you are living it and have to think on your own on what to say and how to respond. Though Lithuanian is difficult, it is still something I'm personally striving to be functional in everyday life by the end of my time here. Lithuanian is not a commonly spoken language around the world or in the US but it is still something that one can put on an application and be able to say that they speak it. Also, once you learn one language, it's easier to learn another and it would help to other potential language learning that may be quite difficult as well (grammar rules may be similar to other languages or the cases). It also helps teach perseverance and not to give up when something is difficult or you don't understand and to ask questions.

   My experience through ExCEL Abroad, though it has only four months and I still have around six more to go, has been amazing, unforgettable, and very impacting on my life. I've learned a lot about myself that I'm happy to have learned now instead of later. My everyday experiences are helping further shape me into the person I will become. It has really helped me overcome my anxiety and gain more self confidence. This experience has also made me even more independent than before (if that's even possible) and has really helped me reflect on my past, appreciate the present, and to really think more about my future and what I want to do exactly. It's helping me weigh options and to be even more open to roadblocks and changes in life. The relationships I've already made with my host family and some of my friends are really great and I hope to continue to build them in order to reflect the goal of the program. I really am enjoying my time here and would like to strongly encourage you or your child to apply to this program. The impact it will have on your life will be incredible and it will be something that you will never forget (any experiences that you may have here may also be good for any future college essays, interview questions, or the like... just saying). Though I was terrified to come here and scared of what the future held I'm so glad I walked onto that plane and faced the unknown. Therefore, please look into this program and seriously consider applying to it. It could change your and or your child's life, I know it has for me.

ExCEL Abroad website: https://www.americancouncils.org/programs/excel-abroad-program

ExCEL Abroad Application:  https://ais.americancouncils.org/cgi-bin/WebObjects/AIR.woa/wa/login?brand=excel




*There are other programs that you or your child should also consider, However, the application deadline for the majority of them have already passed expect for maybe some of the CBYX locations. I will put the website links here as well:



- NSLI-Y the National Security Language Initiative for Youth is a State Department scholarship that offers high school age students the chance to study abroad for either a summer or a year and learn either Arabic, Russian, Persian, Chinese, Korean, or Turkish.
http://www.nsliforyouth.org/


- CBYX or the Congress-Bundestag Youth Exchange is a scholarship that focuses on trans-Atlantic relationships with the United States and Germany. The US send 250 kids to Germany to live with a host family, attend school, and learn the culture of Germany and Germany send 250 kids to the United States to do the same.
http://www.usagermanyscholarship.org/




- The YES Abroad scholarship send students from the United States to significantly high Muslim populations to learn about the culture and fill in the gap between Muslim stereotypes and USA stereotypes through intercultural learning and understanding. They send 65 students to either Bosnia and Herzegovina, Macedonia, Turkey, Egypt (terminated), Tunisia (terminated), Ghana, Senegal (new this year), South Africa (terminated this coming year), Oman, Malaysia, Indonesia, the Philippines, Thailand, and India. 
http://www.yes-abroad.org/

Sunday, December 13, 2015

Mushroom Hunting

During the start of autumn break my host family took me mushroom hunting. Before we go over my experience, let us first look over the history of mushroom hunting. Mushroom hunting is an activity was especially popular during the Soviet era. There was a lack of food available so people had to find a way to fend for themselves thus they started picking mushrooms and berries. Whatever the land could provide for them. People would then either bring the mushrooms back to their families or sell them in the market. This cultural aspect is something that is still evident and somewhat popular in the Lithuanian culture
A few days before we went on the hunt for mushrooms, my host mother, host brother, and I had a debate over why it was called mushroom hunting instead of picking. The side for picking was that we weren't trying to chase the mushroom down or trying to shoot it, we were just going up and cutting/picking it. The side for the hunting was that the mushrooms, like a deer or elk, are hard to see and that we had to have a hunter eye in order to find them and grab them. Therefore, since we had to have the eye for it like a hunter we agreed to call it hunting.

  My host family and I got up at some hour early in the morning, picked up a friend who was our guide (aka mushroom expert), and drove out to Dzūkija (or somewhere near that area), a south eastern part of Lithuanian that borders Belarus. When we got there we put on our boots, grabbed our baskets and knifes, and started the hunt. My host mother and were teamed up and my host sister and father were with the friend (or separate, one of the two). The ground was soft and nice to walk on but it was quite hard to see any mushrooms. I found a couple but they were not the ones we were looking for. All throughout the search my host mother was passing on some of her knowledge of mushrooms to me. She told to always remember that the most beautiful ones that sort of scream 'pick me' are the ones that you do not want to pick. Ever. They are poisonous. Also that the ones with a collar sort of thing around it is another indication that they are poisonous.


 
This was one of the mushrooms that we saw a lot of but never picked because they are classified as poisonous


   After about 20 minutes, my host father shouted that he had found one. It was a portobello, which were the ones that we were looking for. They let me do the picking and put it into my basket. We then continued the hunt. We were going deeper and deeper into the forest and my host mother and I weren't finding anything. Another 10 minutes passed and we started to hear shouting. We had gone too far and nobody knew where we were exactly. We also weren't quite sure the way back to the car. But my host father and mother kept doing their calling/shouting and we slowly found our way back, searching for mushrooms in the process. After having not much luck in that area we decided to get back into the car and try somewhere else.

All ready to start the hunt

Picking the first mushroom

 We drove for a couple minutes, stopped, and then continued the hunt. My host mother and I found plenty of mushrooms but none of them were the ones we were looking for. Then we reached the Dzūkijos Nacionalinis Parkas and could no longer walk through the forest or pick mushrooms so we walked up the road. Then we reached the Čepkelių Gamtinis Rezervatas which is home to a bog. We walked onto the lookout and then hiked around to go to an area where the ground was like a sponge. We walked on it which felt unreal. I had no idea that natural ground could feel like that. We also ate a few cranberries that we found which is also something I've never done before. After exploring the bog, we slowly started to head back to the car. My host father and the friend/guide continued to search for mushrooms as we walked back while my host mother and I looked but weren't trying as hard (or at least I wasn't because I was super tired and my contacts were being weird and I couldn't see very well). When we made it back to the car we finally had some breakfast of tea and breakfast cookies. My host mother then taught me some others ways of trying to find your ways through the woods. She told me that the sun is one way to remember where your car is but isn't always reliable because the sun moves throughout the day. She also told me that there is more moss on one side of the tree than the other and that the side with more moss is generally north. Finally, she told me a story about how she remember when her father went mushroom hunting and didn't come back until late into the night because he had lost his way in the forest and was alone. We found about four mushrooms overall and my host family said that we were either late going out there or that the moon just simply wasn't right for the growth of the mushrooms the night before. Overall, I was quite happy to be fortunate enough to have experienced this older, Soviet part of the Lithuanian culture and hope to be able to use this knowledge that I gained again either here or back in Oregon where mushroom hunting is popular as well.

The bog



Monday, December 7, 2015

Dealing With the Decision (Rejection and Acceptance)

   I thought I would write a post about how I dealt with rejection (and being accepted) because I went through a lot last year and it could be helpful for you (or now.. I'm actually currently writing this post in August because I'm not sure if I'll have time to write one around the time of semi and or finalist notifications and I have really been wanting to write this post for a long time, so sorry about any strange date differences and whatnot).

  I started off the application season right at the end of August when I got back from Argentina. Another exchange was something was planning before and sort of during Argentina so I was already excited and had all that energy bottled up. I even joined a message group on Facebook with fellow applicants in order to contain that energy and not annoy my friends and family too much with me talking about all the programs all the time (I really suggest you do this because I made some really great friends through it and some of them can be really helpful throughout the whole process, especially if you both get rejected, it adds support to you if that makes any sense at all). And then December came along and the NSLI-Y semi-finalist notifications came as well right on the 1st. I didn't receive one that day... The next day on the 2nd, I received an email but it wasn't the news I wanted. I was checking my email at the end of my Spanish class when I saw it, a burst of excitement filled me but then when I opened it, I was crushed. I had not been offered a semi-finalist position. This really upset as I really wanted to learn Russian and live in Russia (or Estonia or Moldova) but I tried to pull myself together for the last few minutes of school. Once I got to the car I went through my general stages of disappointment: Anger, Crying, Numbness, More Crying, Passion, Acceptance. I couldn't be upset too long because I had to go to an ACT prep class but it was hard for me to deal with it at first but then I told myself that I wasn't meant to be and to move on.

    One thing that I've found myself telling myself for the last year or two is that you can't have everything or win everything and that everything happens for a reason. This year has also absolutely enforced that and has helped me understand it even more. Later in December I got accepted by my first college to send me an acceptance, Montana State University. It made me feel better and made me feel more wanted. I also sent in my YES Abroad application that month and then my CBYX  app in early January. Then I started to the waiting game again for study abroad. FFA district extemporaneous public speaking (This is a competition within FFA that I had a notebook of 100 pages on 30 different topic. In the contest I would have to pull one of the 30 topics, write and prepare a speech in 30 minutes, and then present it in front of a panel of judges) was also that month and I placed third meaning I couldn't go on to sectionals. But it was all okay, I still had prepared public speaking to try for and I was hoping that I wouldn't be going to State convention that year anyway because of In person Selection Event for YES Abroad. At the end of January I received my CBYX semi-finalist notification which made me feel better but from what I had heard, almost everyone receives a semi-finalist position for ASSE (as long as you are qualified) so it didn't exactly feel too confident.

  February had just started and I, as well as my fellow applicants, were freaking out about YES Abroad semi-finalist notification and the In Person Selection Event that came with it. We all wanted to meet each other so badly. We also just heard about ExCEL Abroad so I started my application for it. District prepared public speaking went by and I didn't even place in the top four. Still hopeful about In Person Selection Event and YES Abroad, I brushed that aside and didn't let it bother me too much. In about mid-February I received my acceptance letter from Arcadia University, my number one choice for college which was exciting as it is the number one ranked school in study abroad and I had the opportunity to apply for their First Year Study Abroad Experience. Finally, after days, weeks, and months of waiting it was the last business day of February and YES Abroad notifications started to come out. I checked my email, not wanting the email to come at that time but it did... I had gotten rejected.

   This rejection was the one that stung and hurt me the most. I had really thought that I would get this program and I really wanted it. I didn't understand why I had gotten rejected and was super upset about it that night. Part of why I didn't understand why I had gotten rejected was that YES Abroad called and emailed me a week before notifications about my graduation status which made all my friends (and myself partially) that I was a shoe in for IPSE. I didn't understand why they wasted my time with that phone call and email if they were just going to reject me in the end. But thanks to my fellow applicants who also got rejected that day, I had company and we helped each other out that night. I couldn't be upset too long, I had my CBYX interview the next morning which I squeaked and coughed myself through (I had gotten super sick that week and even lost my voice at my FFA district convention earlier that week) it and hoped that I did well enough to avoid another rejection.

   March was not a very happy month for me. I was still very upset about being rejected and it affected my attitude and self esteem A LOT. My mother didn't really understand why I was so upset by this rejection and I tried to explain to that I had gotten my hopes up too high and really wanted the program and to meet all the people that I had made friends at IPSE. The only positive that I saw from this was that I would be able to defend my FFA state agriscience fair title for the third year in a row in which, I ended not winning anything at state that year, including  the essay contest in which I had placed second my freshman and sophomore year. I began to believe that I was a complete failure and that everything that I was applying for I would be rejected from. That feeling started to fill my brain so much and all the time. To point that was considering withdrawing my CBYX and ExCEL Abroad application so I wouldn't have to deal with rejection again but thanks to my fellow rejectees who threatened to withdraw their own application and one even said they would put bleach in their eyes if I did it, I decided to hold on and wait for what I thought would still be a rejection (shout-out and huge thank you to Jeremy, Alexis, and Megan for encouraging me to stay in the game and keep trying). The only thing that made me feel better that month was a letter from Arcadia University accepting me into their First Year Study Abroad Experience program or FYSAE for London Spring semester of 2016.

  The end of March came and the time for CBYX ASSE notifications had finally came and I got accepted! I was so happy and SO IN SHOCK for days! April came with two acceptances from Utah State and Oregon State, one Waitlist notification from University of Washington, and a rejection from Oregon State's honor college. And finally my semi finalist and finalist notification for ExCEL Abroad.

   I don't believe that I dealt with rejection in the best way possible but I had no real idea on how to deal with so much rejection and failure as well as acceptance and success. It also didn't help that the ones who did get accepted weren't exactly nice or supportive of my fellow rejectees and I but thanks to them, it taught me how I should and shouldn't act when being accepted and how to with the ones who had been rejected. What really got me through this was, as I said before, the fact that you can't win or have everything you want, it has to even out. If you won all the time and got what you wanted all the time as well, are you really winning or actually growing from the experience? NOPE! Also that everything happens for a reason, even though I may not like it, and also that there is or was something better out there for me whether it had been college or an exchange program.

   What I really want to finish up with is that even with your first, second, or even third rejection. DON'T GIVE UP! It will all be okay. You never know what the future holds and the next year, whether it be here or abroad, will be what is best for you at the time. Remember that if I had given up and pulled my application like I started to want to in March, I would not be going to Lithuania this year or even of known that I had gotten CBYX or ExCEL Abroad. Everything did happen for a reason and even though those were the two program I thought I had no chance of getting into, I got them! It could very well be you next year so please don't give up on yourself. I wish you the best of luck and if you wish to contact me about your feelings on this or need someone to talk to about rejection (if you were rejected of course), please comment below.